18 May Learning To Say No
Despite the temptation for parents to say yes to their children’s wishes, it is not healthy to give them everything they want. It gives the child a false sense that they can have anything and the desire to expect more. It starts with one “American Girl” then accessories, more dolls, more accessories and on to the next thing. I came to this conclusion watching my two children that we need to say NO.
I have a seven-year-old daughter and a one-year-old son. My wife and I learn from them and love them to pieces. In my household, my wife stays home with the kids, and I work to support our family. Before I go further, I know what she does is a full-time job, and I respect women or men who stay home with their children. I believe it is important to raise your kids with the morals you would like them to have. My wife does a tremendous job with them, and I would not want it any other way. Putting my children’s susceptible minds in the hands of people we barely know was something we did not want. We control what our children learn, but there are times we need to look back at how things are working and adjust.
My son can have fun with anything. I was sitting on the couch watching him play with the pots and pans he took outside of the cabinet. Recollecting about the day before when he was crawling and playing in boxes from an Amazon purchase. He was jubilant just playing with the things he had to play with. By the way, he plays with boxes and pots and pans more than all his toys!
My daughter, on the other hand, has been watching TV with subtle
tv commercials (this is another article coming). The ads are pointed at children and meant for them to talk to their parents to buy. I must say they have this down to a science. She started saying she wanted everything that was advertised, from Shopkins to
Pokemon she wanted them. My wife started buying her a range of things, and I noticed she played with it for a day and went on to the newest thing. Now maybe she would play with some when her friends come over, but they are not played with all the time. She has a bedroom full of toys that just sit there.
My thoughts on this are that sometimes we as parents are doing a disservice to our children by buying everything for them. It gives them a false sense of the real world. How do we expect our children to grow up and work hard if they feel everything should be handed to them? My wife and I discussed the issue I was seeing, and we agreed to stop our current ways and how to move forward.
If they want something, they should work a little extra for it. Nothing in life is free. My seven-year-old has chores she must do in the house regularly like taking out the trash and helping fold laundry but if she really wants something she has to help her mommy with extra things to build up and buy the toy, book, etc. We no longer just buy her big toys just to give to her unless it is for special occasions like her birthday or Christmas.
She also plays with the toys she already has more because she isn’t getting the biggest next thing with a snap of her fingers. Our household also stopped watching any television channels that have all these ads. Netflix and other streaming programs are used instead. The only channel we watch now (with the children) is PBS. This nonprofit channel is great! No commercials. No more unneeded toys.